The New Year is often associated with new goals and reflective practices. As I look back on my 3 decades of life, I can see some growth and changes, but I also recognize there were moments of stress and anxiety over the future.
Do you ever look back at a situation or period of your life and think “if only I knew then what I know now?” I most certainly do. And in light of my new year’s reflective practice, I thought I would share with you some of the advice I would tell my younger self.
- Don’t sweat the small stuff. Seriously. Don’t. I lost so much sleep worrying about an exam that hadn’t happened or a not completing a task in a timely manner.
- Take care of your skin! Don’t wait until your 30s to start using moisturizer, face wash or SPF. I am guilty of this and I wish I started earlier.
- Drink water. Take care of your organs by drinking water, especially when infusing alcohol and caffeine into your system.
- Dig deeper, especially when it comes to fitness and wellness. What I thought was healthy practices in my 20s, really is nothing close to what I know now. Thankfully we have social media and access to information at our fingertips now, but I do wish I dug a little deeper instead of taking things at face value.
- Speak your truth. Don’t keep silent because you are scared of how you will come across. It wasn’t until the last few years I became vocal when I didn’t like what was said or done but for many years I was a push over and this made me resentful to some people.
- Make memories. Yes it is important to study for those exams or complete the work deadlines but sometimes it’s more important to take the time to make the memories. I will forever think about missing out on dog sledding and horse back riding in University because I was trying to write a paper. I still haven’t done either.
- Learn when to prioritize. As in #5 above, if I had prioritized better, I could have don’e the paper and gone to the activities but I would spend hours at home trying to get work done, but every distraction came into play. If I had scheduled out what needed to be done, with respect to priority, then I would have been much more efficient in university. It took years to learn this or even appreciate the importance of tasks and priority lists.
- Walk away from what doesn’t serve you. I spent years in relationships that were toxic and going no where, but I hung on because we had history and because I value loyalty. Unfortunately it costed me my self worth. I know now it is okay to walk away with the good memories in tow.
- You may have your heart broken, but you will be okay! Lean on your family and friends, but mostly, spend the time to love yourself first. There’s only 1 of you, and you are amazing!
- Show up! I never appreciated until recently the importance of being there for your friends and family. While we can’t always be at their beck and call, it is important that we show up when necessary especially for the milestones.
While I don’t expect this to have an impact on anyone especially since everything I’ve written is common knowledge; but hopefully it can act as a reminder, no matter what age we are.
Wishing you all a super deluxe start to the new year!!